dignity

The elderly no matter what status they are to you- a husband, wife, mother, father, grandfather, grandmother- should be treated with utmost care, showered them with love and dignity. They have sacrificed and protected you enough, giving you all the loves that you need as you grow up. Now it's your turn to reciprocate the love and devotion they have given to you all their life.
Be very careful when speaking to them, avoiding words that can irritate them, hurt their feeling or offend them. Do not raise your voice upon them and do not say something that can bring shame to them.
I once visited a very sick man. Bedridden, he was unable to talk but he could hear well and respond with gesture when someone talk to him. As I was looking at the man's frail face, the wife spoke with high voice that can be heard miles away about her husband's condition.
'Pak cik ni malam tadi sakit perut, bengak(berak) tak bengenti, dari pukul 5 petang sampai 6 pagi, tujuh belas kali bengak, jenuh laaa mak cik dok cuci, dok tukaq pempers. Pempers pula bukannya murah. Saya sampai tak tiduq malam dok kena jaga dia'
Conversation like this right in front of the ailing husband might embarrass him and make him feel that he's a burden to his wife . Nevertheless I very much appreciate her patience, love and tireless support for the husband. May Allah bless her.
Statement of Allah: 'Only those who are patient will receive their reward without measure' (39:10)